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Why Do I Hate My Job?

October 28, 2014 by Melissa Aiello, Ph.D.

There a lot of reasons why people don’t like their jobs. Some of those reasons are solely about the job. Let’s be honest, some jobs are terrible. But some reasons are about the person, and some are about the fit between person and job. But how can you tell which is the problem?

Example: Amy

Amy is a 42 year-old schoolteacher who finds herself struggling to get work every morning. When she comes to meet with me for career counseling, she says she is wondering if she should change jobs. Her serious work-related unhappiness consumes most of her waking hours. She thinks she is a horrible teacher and that her students do not learn anything in her class. Last week she came home in tears one day. When her roommate asked her what’s wrong, she was actually surprised when the words escaped her mouth: “I hate my job!”

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Filed Under: Career, Depression

How to Overcome the Vicious Cycle of Depression and Avoidance

July 27, 2014 by Melissa Aiello, Ph.D.

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Depression makes everything harder, including the stuff we used to enjoy. This can lead us to avoid those things. Unfortunately, when depression and avoidance join forces, it can be really bad news.

Behavioral activation is a treatment for depression that helps people focus on re-engagement with their lives. Specifically, it gets people doing precisely the things that are likely to improve their mood (Jacobson, Martell, & Dimidjian, 2001). Generally, when a depressed person is in behavioral activation treatment, they change the activities in their life to lessen depression. The therapist helps them to structure their lives differently.

Rather than assuming that there is a deficiency in the depressed individual, behavioral activation takes a more practical approach. It examines what is occurring in the person’s life to worsen or maintain the depression. This often involves looking at the things they do, the situations they find themselves in, and the things they avoid.

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Filed Under: Cognitive-behavioral therapy, Depression Tagged With: CBT, depression

The Best Answer to “Do You Have Any Questions For Me?” In an Interview

April 24, 2012 by Melissa Aiello, Ph.D.

Career counseling session - interview

We have all been there. It is 45 minutes into an hour long interview and the person holding our resume asks what seems like their final question. “Do you have any questions for me?” If you have done your homework, you likely have many specific questions about the organization and position. However, there is probably one question you haven’t asked that could help your chances of getting an offer.

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Filed Under: Career Tagged With: career, vocational counseling

How to Win the Career Decision Making Trifecta

April 10, 2012 by Melissa Aiello, Ph.D.

Making a career decision: Parts one and two

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There are three important aspects to consider when making a career decision, whether for the first time or tenth. Many times people confuse these three things and my job is to help them sort out how each of these three aspects impact their career decisions.

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Filed Under: Career Tagged With: career, vocational counseling

How to Make a Decision About Career Change: Use Science

March 27, 2012 by Melissa Aiello, Ph.D.

Making decisions about changing careers or jobs is often very hard. We need to consider many important factors. But science can help us!

When contemplating a change in your professional life there are many ways of achieving your desired outcomes. These outcomes are usually what prompt your desire for change. For example, you may want to feel some passion for your work that you don’t right now. You might want to have more time to pursue hobbies or spend with loved ones. Maybe you simply want to spend your days doing something that is more (or less!) challenging than your current work.

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Filed Under: Career Tagged With: career, vocational counseling

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